A daring wedding trend is making the rounds on social media – but not everyone would dare to try it: some brides surprise their guests by entering their reception with a new haircut, getting their hair cut right after ceremony.
Jessie Angelovski, 28, is one such bride. She wasn’t inspired by any other bride on social media when she decided to undergo the mid-wedding cut. Instead, she told Yahoo Life, she was just looking for a “radical change” in her look between the ceremony and the reception.
“My hairdresser is a great friend of our family and has been cutting my hair for years,” she explains. “I’ve always grown my hair out and then cut my hair and always felt more ‘me’ with short hair, but I was growing my hair out for our wedding so I had more work to do. So before the wedding , I pitched the idea to my hairdresser James and he loved it!
Necovski also donned a new dress and shoes, giving herself a whole new look.
“It was supposed to be a surprise, but I think we slipped past my husband a few times,” she says. “But with so much going on that day, he forgot the haircut was going on.”
Amy Mayfield, 23, also had her hair cut in the middle of the wedding after seeing the trend on social media. She opted for the haircut instead of a dress change.
“I was thinking of buying a second dress to go into the reception, but I thought, let’s do something different and change my hair instead,” she told Yahoo Life. “My hair was bleached about three times before the wedding to make it this beautiful white blonde, so it absolutely had to be cut after that. I was going to have it cut on Monday. Then I thought, my best friend is a hairstylist and attending my wedding, clip it after our photos before entering the reception to surprise everyone! It was the best.”
Lisa Dower, Mayfield’s hairstylist, says she thought Mayfield was initially “joking” about wanting the chop.
“I was a little nervous,” she said. “I’ve done a million big haircuts like this, but I can’t say anyone has ever worn a wedding dress while I’m doing it. I was so honored and happy to be a part of the Amy’s day. She’s my best friend and I know she had complete confidence in me that I would make her look amazing to make the most amazing entrance at her wedding reception.”
Dower adds, “I hadn’t told anyone what I was doing, so when she walked in, all the girls sitting next to me were all screaming, ‘Oh my God, she cut her hair!'”
Wisconsin-based wedding planner Meredith Bartel understands the idea behind a mid-wedding haircut, which can feel like a “fresh start.” It can also symbolize moving the event from a more formal and traditional event to one that is more about ‘letting go and having fun’.
Of course, as with anything wedding-related, getting a perfectly timed haircut between ceremony and reception also involves a bit of planning. Bartel suggests staging the event so a bride can sneak in for the chop for a cocktail hour.
“It’s quite common in most American weddings for the bridal couple to miss their cocktail hour, due to late photography or travel between venues, so any absences would go unnoticed. by the guests, and a new chop might be revealed during the pre-dinner grand entrée,” she explains of traditional wedding setups. “Logistically, there’s normally a lull in the timeline once the official family portraits are done. That’s when I usually take my couple away from the wedding for a moment of time off. I invite them to use the bathroom, touch up their makeup, or just take a break and soak up some alone time together.
While many people opt for the haircut between the ceremony and the reception, Bartel has another suggestion that can ease the stress.
“Perhaps you’re convinced you want a wedding chop, but scared of the commitment because it will be filmed? Consider going for the chop later that night,” she notes. most photographers leave about an hour after the special dances, and conveniently, that’s when wedding day obligations also slow down. You can schedule your chop right after your first dance with your spouse and come back with a new do to get you low on the dance floor. Hope your guests are too busy dancing to notice your absence, and have your DJ announce your new revelation when you return! Your photographer will still be there for a few minutes and can capture your guest’s reaction, but you haven’t risked ruining your frame-worthy portraits.
Elisabeth Kramer, Oregon-based wedding planner, author of Modern Etiquette Wedding Planner, points out that a bride should make sure that any mid-wedding haircut is how she wants her wedding day to feel. Often, she says, “extra programming” is the first thing to cut on a stressful day — so it’s important to ask yourself what “value” the moment might have.
“I think that’s a really good North Star for people to ask themselves, ‘How do I want to feel on my wedding day?’ Is it “I want to feel this moment of surprise”? I want people to be kind of like, oh my God, [I’ve] never seen this before? “, she says. “It’s going to inform the hairstyle you get, it’s going to inform the hairdresser you hire, it’s going to inform when and where you want to do this…It’s important to go check that out early.” Because on the day itself, you will be in the present moment and you won’t have time to do a lot of checking.
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