When it’s your full-time job to spend up to 12 hours a day with the bride and groom, you learn a little something about marriage.
In fact, a group of veteran wedding photographers who shared their thoughts on Reddit recently feel they’ve seen so much when it comes to getting married, they can actually pick the exact couples who aren’t going to hold the line. distance, thanks to these first photo-moment signs of divorce.
The seven clues a couple is getting married will eventually divorce, according to wedding photographers:
1. Glassy eyes
We all come to a point in our life when we have attended so many weddings that our eyes immediately fix during the nuptials. But if either of the bride and groom’s eyes appear to be staring into the distance in their own wedding photos, that’s a bad sign, says Reddit commentator Jaff4487; “[It’s that look of]…I made a huge mistake.”
2. The wrong kind of sexual tension
Good sexual tension between the bride and groom on the wedding day is usually a good sign, but when that tension shifts from one duo to someone else at the wedding party, it’s never a good sign. .
“Once upon a time there was more sexual tension between groom and best man than between groom and bride,” Reddit commenter SuccessiveApprox explains.
3. When it’s all about the bride
Wedding photographer and Reddit commentator JetKeel says a wedding is usually doomed if the bride is more focused on the wedding day than the wedding preparation itself.
“I think the success of the marriage can also be directly related to the number of times the bride says, ‘it’s my day’. No, no, it’s not.”
4. When a couple is totally out of sync
“A couple had me worried, the bride was a tense wreck during the whole ceremony and reception to the point that I didn’t get many usable photos of her because she looked so stressed and unhappy” , said another Reddit user and photographer.
“Meanwhile, the groom was with his friends having a good time (which is fine and normal) but not helping him in any way or responding to his panic at all.”
5. A lack of enthusiasm
If a couple usually appears disinterested during wedding photos, that’s definitely a red flag, according to Reddit user CoLmes, who recalls one particularly disturbing experience.
“My very first wedding was a couple getting married near the Philadelphia Museum of Art. I had my friend who has been a wedding photographer for 10 years with me to show me the ropes after doing a lot of second takes of seen with him. So he poses a kissing picture of the couple, and when he asks them to kiss, the bride says “oh, no, no thank you” in that weird little mouse voice. He’s photographed over 100 weddings and said he had never seen a couple, so not into each other as much as they were.”
6. Obvious signs of contempt
If a bride and groom haven’t resolved their issues before they hit the altar, it could spell disaster for the wedding.
“I’ve been planning events (mostly weddings) for several years. Number one I would say is disdain. If one couple disrespects the other (disrespects their opinion, minimizes their thoughts, belittles her partner, etc.), I guarantee the couple will divorce,” said Reddit commenter chrislbraman.
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7. Cake fight
“This is going to sound totally cheesy, but I have even more feelings about this: What happens while the cake is being cut. Gently feeding each other? Good sign. A playful smear of frosting on the No problem,” says Reddit user 2Dprinter.
“But once in a while someone will hit back – a bad sign. I think it’s indicative of the kind of contempt that will doom the relationship. Even if you don’t want that slush on your face, you have to be able to handle it. laugh go and have a good time.”
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Nadia Bokody is a journalist, media commentator and editor whose work has appeared in The Washington Post, Huffington Post, Thought Catalog, Cosmopolitan and many others.
This article originally appeared on SheSaid. Reprinted with permission from the author.