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Save the date: how couples say ‘I do’ in 2021

“On paper, we’ve only been together for about two and a half years,” painter Ivy Getty explains of her relationship with photographer Toby Engel. But in this pandemic-type, dog-year-like acceleration that we’re living in, she feels it’s been longer: “If you go through the lockdown with someone, it’s like you’ve been together for three times the time.” . ” Crowds of other pandemic-era loves have followed suit – a 2020 trend dubbed the ‘turbo relationship’. “It felt like we were moving fast,” Getty says. “But I didn’t feel rushed.” Yet when Engel proposed last summer at a restaurant in Capri, Getty was taken aback. It wasn’t until he produced his mother’s sapphire ring that she realized what was going on. In November, the couple will tie the knot in the San Francisco mansion that once belonged to his grandmother Ann, an antique dealer who filled the house with 18th-century furniture and Chinese export porcelain.

Getty’s celebration will be just one of what is sure to be a post-pandemic wedding boom. According to wedding planner Stefanie Cove, many “new fiancés are pushing to get married this year,” while those who have had to postpone their 2020 celebrations have actively sent out invitations. “Calendars can be booked quickly!” she says. In a poll conducted by wedding site Over the Moon in May 2020, more than half of respondents said they were postponing their weddings; the percentage increased as the gloom of 2020 persisted.

Alexandra Michler and Will Kopelman.

Madeline Hollander is one of many brides who have adjusted their calendars. She is an artist, dancer and choreographer (whose solo exhibition at the Whitney Museum of American Art ends August 8), and her fiancé, Sam Parker, is the founder of the Parker Gallery in Los Angeles. Their relationship began at a 2019 Whitney Biennale after-party, when Hollander was scouring the floor for an earring. “I was on my hands and knees with my iPhone flashlight, just crawling,” she says. Parker slapped him on the shoulder with the missing hoop in his hand, and less than a year later, they got engaged. Their September 2020 wedding was postponed until May, when, near an oak tree in the groom’s parents’ yard, the ceremony finally took place. In August, Alexandra Michler, VogueDirector of fashion initiatives, will marry Will Kopelman, art consultant, just eight months after his engagement. She and her fiance grew up spending summers in Nantucket, where they will get married, but it’s also where they spent those first days of the pandemic – “just in that gray place, making the most of it,” Michler says . “I think if you can survive this the rest of your lives will be pretty good.”

Raven-Symoné and Miranda Pearman-Maday.

Of course, many pandemic marriages did take place, albeit in a reduced form. We’ve seen couples getting married on flowering perches, in Brooklyn’s backyards, and on the cliffs of Big Sur, limited by crowds. Raven-Symoné married Miranda Pearman-Maday on a lawn, Lily Allen and David Harbor escaped to a Las Vegas chapel, and Princess Beatrice married Edoardo Mapelli Mozzi in what was arguably the most underpopulated wedding in the world. royal history. I saw my own sister reciting her vows in the Arizona desert to a group of 10. The couple had planned a week-long extravaganza that included spice and flower-strewn ceremonies and fireworks. bigger and bigger. Instead, they clung to what mattered to them and let go of the rest. For the groom, this meant the seven stages which are traditional in Indian marriage; for the bride, that meant wearing a Monique Lhuillier dress in chantilly lace.

The writer’s sister, Aydah Rao, marries Rahul Rao in the Arizona desert. Brad hendron

Such recalibration has also gone into fashion, with designers rushing to help outfit this new-age bride. Earlier this year, Erdem – who had never offered bridal ready-to-wear before – released a collection of vaporous pieces that struck an elusive happy medium between full wedding dresses and white-colored dresses. In March, Simone Rocha also ventured into the category, sending her brides down the aisle in pink ballerinas. “Our girls are drawn to more classic and streamlined silhouettes,” says Markarian designer Alexandra O’Neill (designer of Dr. Jill Biden’s Inauguration Day set), whose dresses somehow evoke idyllic romance. and the irreverence of cool girls at the same time. Since last year, sales on Over the Moon of a particular Alexia María midi dress have increased. “The price is great for a wedding dress,” says Alexandra Macon, co-founder of the site, “and it really lends itself to a smaller event.”

This fall, menswear designer Emily Adams Bode – who sparked a special kind of melancholy nostalgia for the bygone days of fashion – also plans to tie the knot. While details of the ceremony are still being worked out, she went ahead with a few costumes. Her fiancé, Aaron Aujla, co-founder of the design company Green River Project, will wear a bespoke ensemble in a color between saffron and marigold on the eve of the wedding ceremony. “We’ve talked a lot about this color over the years,” says Aujla. “It’s a really specific tone, and I think we’ve found it.” As for the bride, she will make her own dress – something that meditates on the idea of ​​timelessness. “It’s important for me to give the impression that I could have come from any era,” she says.

Emily Adams Bode (in a vintage dress that will inspire one of her wedding looks) with her fiance, Aaron Aujla, and their dog, Monday. Hair, Tamara McNaughton; makeup, Laura Stiassni. Fashion editor: Jorden Bickham. Produced by North Six. Photographed by Sean Thomas, Vogue, June / July 2021

In San Francisco, Getty will honor her bohemian spirit by calling on Maison Margiela for her wedding look. “I was so uncomfortable at first,” she says of working with John Galliano from Margiela. “I didn’t want to influence what he was doing. I chose Galliano because I trust him. Michler, meanwhile, was surprised to find herself on a smaller lane. “I’m drawn to simpler shapes,” she says. “This is something I never expected. As for Hollander, she can’t quite remember where she first stumbled on the Valentino seafoam haute couture dress she was aiming for. Once she found it and tried it on, she was delighted to find it was a perfect fit: “There was nothing the tailor had to do, no modifications. But when Hollander married her husband in front of an audience of 40 vaccinated guests six months late, the dress needed a little work. “At that time, I was five months pregnant!” she explains.

Sam Parker and Madeline Hollander Photo: Daniel Terna

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