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Make black love last: the Ramsay

Meet Timothy and Adwoa Ramsay, passionate church and community leaders.

Pastor Timothy Ramsay and his wife Minister Adwoa Ramsay are childhood sweethearts and have been together for 27 years and married for 23 years. The couple met at a track meet at the local high school, but it was far from love at first sight.

“It was the first time we had seen each other, he didn’t like me and I didn’t like him – I thought he looked like a frog,” Adwoa told The Voice.

Tim thought Adwoa was loud and obnoxious, she had recently moved from New York to their local town of Luton.

“I was from New York and obviously these English boys couldn’t handle this. This is what it was! Adwoa joked.

It was on Tim’s 17th birthday that the fates of these two changed, Tim had recently broken up with his then-girlfriend

“I had started to feel her [Adwoa] a little. Usually with my ex-girlfriend I would chase it a bit and we would be together again, but this time I left it.

“So on my 17th birthday there was a reunion and that’s when I decided to continue,” Tim explained.

Tim, who was a young casanova at the time, quickly fell in love with Adwoa much to the surprise of his friends and family. “We had a lot of people who just didn’t want us to be together, it was just weird. They just didn’t want to see us, ”Adwoa said.

Despite this, the couple struggled to tie the knot a few years later and have remained together ever since.

Best moments

Tim is 44 and Adwoa is 42 and they describe their marriage as one of the best times they have shared.

“Where it all started – our marriage because it was basically a decision of faith, we were so young, I was 20 and Adwoa was 18,” Tim explained.

Eight months before the wedding, Adwoa was baptized and during Adwoa’s baptism, Tim also gave his life to the Lord, which marked the start of a new chapter. “We weren’t sure if we were ready for the wedding but we had been through so much and we both knew this was the person I needed to be with for the rest of my life and we also knew we wanted to please. to God, ”says Adwoa.

Since giving their lives to the Lord the couple have continued to grow in faith and about 4 years later they began their own ministry together.

“It has been an incredible journey to minister together. In terms of becoming pastors, we had so many challenges if I had done this alone, without my wife it would have been a disaster. It’s really solidified rather than pulling us apart. It’s just her and me against the world you know, ”Tim explained.

The couple have three children together Timmika, Shiloh and Josiah as well as a 6-year-old granddaughter Lylaa-Rose.

Adwoa also describes the birth of their granddaughter as one of the greatest moments they have shared.

“I feel like when Lylaa was born it was another moment of realization that this is our family, this is what came from us and I think it was another amazing moment for us. which solidified our union “,

“Very early in our marriage because we were so young. We really had to mature under the microscope of marriage.

“Marriage so magnifies what is in us your characteristics, your immaturity, your selfishness, those things that are revealed in the marriage covenant,” Tim explained.

Tim was the youngest of his siblings, a mom boy and Adwoa had been raised to be very self-sufficient and independent.

“You’re boyfriend and girlfriend and that’s cute, but when you’re home with that person 24/7 you have to learn to communicate and deal with things that you don’t. had not seen before. It was really hard. The first 8 years of our marriage were hell, ”said Adwoa.

It was God who kept these two together, they shared that whenever things got really crazy there would be divine intervention.

“One of the things we’ve realized is that the community doesn’t dictate who we are. So what we’ve been trying to do, especially recently, is really live for the public and understand that people’s opinions are always going to change. We pray, we walk, and we walk with God

“We didn’t really have a date, we didn’t have a honeymoon like that, it was ghetto romance, neighborhood romance. We didn’t know the limits we had to set, we didn’t know the communication limits we had to set, we didn’t know the time we had to set aside, ”the couple explained.

“One of the most explosive moments where she tried to kill me and I thank God that he did not allow our problems to take over but rather presented a real opportunity to rebuild and it we literally started over, ”Tim explained.

Adwoa and Tim are community leaders and part of a large faith network, they share their lives online and are also very transparent as a couple and family.

“One of the things we’ve realized is that the community doesn’t dictate who we are. So what we’ve been trying to do, especially recently, is really live for the public and understand that people’s opinions are always going to change. We pray, we move forward and we move forward with God, ”says Adwoa.

The couple also provide marriage counseling and you can read more about this as well as receive marriage encouragement via Instagram @ 2minutemariage

They give advice on finances, privacy and communication to name a few.

“You are not enemies. You are in a relationship, you are together, you are in the same team. At the end of the day, that’s how I think every couple should approach finance, understand that it’s not about mine, it’s about us and not me, it’s our finances, ”Tim advises.

“I would also say laugh a lot like, have fun. Please have fun, because so many couples don’t know how to do this anymore, ”Adowoa explained.

The couple are filled with grace and encourage others to do the same. “May your marriage be filled with grace, if you allow your marriage to be filled with grace, you will have a marriage that will last as long as you are here on this earth. Grace covers you, it gives you power. And that gives you the opportunity to grow, ”explained Adwoa.

Pastor Tim Ramsay also reminds couples to touch and be affectionate regularly, even in the presence of family and friends. He also encourages couples to forgive each other quickly and not to postpone arguments to a new day.

The Voice is excited to see what the future holds for this couple, they have a lot of exciting projects going on and you can follow the couple on Instagram via @revtlr and @adwoagodsgirl

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