Whether you want to write a poem to your loved one or steal a few lines from a Shakespearean sonnet, being able to personalize your vows is part of the allure of a civil wedding ceremony.
However, Cathcart says the degree of personalization varies between different local councils. âSome neighborhoods will allow more customization than others,â she says. However, religious references are not allowed at any part of the ceremony.
Certain legal terms must be included in the vows in order to make the union legally binding – namely the declaration (“I solemnly declare that I know of no lawful impediment for which I, (name), cannot be married to (name) ) â) And the contract, where you call on those present to testify to your union.
âPersonalized greetings can be added separately or they can be labeled on that second legal contract. It depends on the individual and how he wishes to do it, âexplains Cathcart. It also depends on the registrar. If you want to write your own vows, you must always give a copy in advance to the registrar.
However, if you don’t want the pressure of writing your own vows, you can choose from a selection of pre-written vows from your registrar.
Even if you don’t write your own vows, you can personalize your ceremony through readings, songs, or music. âInject your personality where you can by choosing music that gives you all the feel – we had Kings of Leon playing to walk,â says Murphy. “This is obviously a serious occasion, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be fun too.”