Wedding Service

A construction worker can’t wait to hear his fiancée’s wedding vows as she finally agrees to marry him after he has hearing aids fitted

It was music to the ears of a construction worker when his fiancee finally agreed to marry because she had refused to marry him until he got hearing aids, fearing he would never hear the wishes.

Sarah Smart, 38, who works in advertising, started dating Derren Wing, 49, in 2005 while working behind a bar at a place where he was the doorman and she first agreed when he proposed in Las Vegas, United States, in March. 2014.

But the couple, from Tunbridge Wells, Kent, delayed their plans as Sarah feared Derren’s growing deafness meant he wouldn’t hear the service, saying: I was afraid he was ignoring the celebrant or that he does not hear the vows correctly.

She added: “It’s such an important day and I was really concerned about Derren’s hearing loss.

“He was really reluctant to have it sorted, but I knew I couldn’t arrange the wedding without his audition being sorted first.”

While Derren can’t pinpoint when his hearing started to fade, he’s definitely noticed that it’s deteriorated over the past few years.

Sarah had refused to marry Derren until he was fitted with hearing aids, fearing she would never hear the vows (Collect/PA Real Life).

Sarah said: “When we met, he had no hearing problems. This is something that has gradually gotten worse over the years.

“I noticed I was saying something and he didn’t notice. I suggested he get his hearing tested, which he did.

The March 2016 hearing test confirmed Derren was hard of hearing and hearing aids were recommended.

Derren, pictured here with his partner, Sarah, recommended hearing aids in March 2016 (Collect/PA Real Life)

Derren, pictured here with his partner, Sarah, recommended hearing aids in March 2016 (Collect/PA Real Life)

Sarah said: “He didn’t want to get the hearing aids fitted and at the time his hearing loss wasn’t as bad as it is now.”

When the couple first got engaged, they never intended to get married in a hurry, especially since the proposal came as a complete surprise to Sarah.

She said: “We had discussed the prospect of getting married, but the proposal came as a total surprise.”

She added: ‘We were actually traveling for another wedding and Derren had tried to throw me off balance so I was completely shocked but thrilled when he popped the question.

“We both knew it would be a long engagement, as we were in no rush to get married.”

But the lead to the big day got longer, as Derren’s audience started to fail.

Derren, pictured here with his partner Sarah, accepted hearing aids in 2020 (Collect/PA Real Life).

Derren, pictured here with his partner Sarah, accepted hearing aids in 2020 (Collect/PA Real Life).

Sarah said, “I would talk to him from another room and he wouldn’t hear anything I said.

“I think I noticed his hearing issues more than him because I could see he was seemingly ignoring people when we were socializing or not picking up conversations when we were watching TV.

“I convinced him to get his hearing checked, but the only solution was for Derren to start wearing hearing aids, which he wouldn’t do.”

The couple are now planning to wed in August this year (Collect/PA Real Life).

The couple are now planning to wed in August this year (Collect/PA Real Life).

She added: “In social situations it was becoming evident. We were going to lunch with friends and Derren couldn’t hear half the conversation. He wasn’t rude, it was just his hearing, but I didn’t want him to miss things.

“I thought, ‘What if he doesn’t hear half of the wedding ceremony? We can’t get married unless this is fixed.

“In the end, I told him that I wouldn’t get married if he didn’t sort out his audition.”

After postponing the installation of helpers, Derren finally accepted in 2020 when it became clear that his fiancée was extremely serious about not becoming his wife unless he got the help. what he needed.

She said: ‘Derren has since moved to new construction work on the railway and it is essential that he can hear properly otherwise it could become very dangerous if a train is approaching and it is not. aware.

“But beyond that, it’s just been life changing for him. It can be quite isolating not being able to hear properly.

Derren says he didn't realize how bad his hearing was until he had the hearing aids fitted (Collect/PA Real Life)

Derren says he didn’t realize how bad his hearing was until he had the hearing aids fitted (Collect/PA Real Life)

Meanwhile, Derren admits that part of his hesitation to get help was that he feared there was a stigma attached to wearing hearing aids.

He said: “I felt like I was too young to have hearing problems and, especially working in construction, I didn’t want to deal with comments from my colleagues.

“There are a lot of jokes while you work and I was afraid it would come at my expense.”

Derren and Sarah met in 2005 while working at the same bar (Collect/PA Real Life).

Derren and Sarah met in 2005 while working at the same bar (Collect/PA Real Life).

She added: “But the aids I carry are very small. They don’t hang behind my ears, they fit right into the ear, so no one can see them.

“Nobody at work even knows I’m wearing them, so any fear of being made fun of wearing them is completely gone.”

Recalling the day he first wore the hearing aids, Derren remembers how shocked he was at the sound of birds in his backyard.

He said: “I hadn’t heard the birds chirping in about 15 years. You can take something as important as your hearing for granted and I don’t think I really realized how bad it was until I had the hearing aids fitted.

“The guy sorting them made Sarah walk to the end of the hall and talk to me while the radio was on.

“I remembered every word. That’s when I knew how hearing aids would change my life.

Derren and Sarah are now looking forward to their wedding in August this year (Collect/PA Real Life).

Derren and Sarah are now looking forward to their wedding in August this year (Collect/PA Real Life).

He added: “Between the wedding and the honeymoon, it’s my 50th birthday, so we have a lot to look forward to in the next few months.

“Being able to hear properly opened up my life again and now I can’t wait to hear Sarah take her vows at the end of the aisle in August.”