“I wouldn’t have told anyone about my wedding plans. Everyone felt they knew better than we did. My mother-in-law and sister-in-law lost their shit over my flower selection. My mother m Said I was embarrassed with my catering selection. Showing my aunt my Pinterest board for wedding dresses, she literally said, “I know your style is better than this; these are terrible. Good thing I grabbed it before you buy anything. I still did whatever I wanted, and the day was good and everyone was fine entertained and behaved well. But I could have saved myself a ton of misery if I had only kept my mouth shut on my plans.
âRemember, my husband and I paid for everything ourselves. Until the morning of our wedding, the women in my family tried to force me to make changes and spend money that I didn’t have. I wish that instead of wasting all of my energy defending my choices, apologizing, and then questioning my plans, I spend this time enjoying my commitment.
It sounds petty because it is only a one day event. But seeing how critical and arrogant they all were in trying to intimidate me into each of their specific tastes really opened my eyes and caused a bit of “strain in these relationships.” Read: I’m no longer the easy-to-handle kid’s play that they all needed me to be. “